Hey Shiva, this is Sameer (name changed). I want to ask you about
how to attract a woman, not a girl. Actually she is older than me, I m
just 23 and she is 32 or 35 may be. So I want to attract that woman.
She looks amazing and I see her riding her Activa scooter, not regularly
but sometimes. I just want to attract her towards myself. So please
guide me how to attract her towards me. I just love her.
– Sameer, Patiala
Your only interaction with her has been watching her ride her scooter.
You haven’t talked to her, you don’t know if she is intelligent, if she
is loyal, if she has body odour or bad breath, if she has diseases,
if she is interesting to talk to, if she is from a good family, or even if
she is mentally stable.
You know nothing about her. And yet you “love” her already??!
You know what says about you?
It says you’re a lonely, desperate loser, with no women, no fun,
no friends, and nothing going on in your life.
Nothing personal Sameer, I’m only telling you what’s obvious.
And if that’s obvious to me (just from your mail) how much more
obvious would it be to that woman when she sees you stare at her
like a sad puppy dog.
So my question to you : why should a beautiful woman like her
be attracted to a lonely, desperate loser like you?
Think about that.
Of all the men she can be with, why should she be with you?
Women are not attracted to desperate losers with no women.
Women are attracted to confident winners who have multiple women.
So what should you do?
You have to let her know that you’re a confident, interesting man with
a choice of women in your life. You have to communicate to her that
you are intrigued by her but not yet sure if you like her.
Here’s what you could do.
- First, stop falling in “love” with women before they prove
that they are worthy of your love.
- Next, stop staring at her like a hungry puppy dog. Whenever
she sees you, you should be having fun, laughing with your
friends or into your cell phone.
- Talk to her. The next time you see her coming by, wave
her down. When she stops…
You : “Hey, I have a quick question, very important. I am
thinking of getting a tattoo. Do you think it’ll look hotter on
my arm or on my wrist?” Ask with bold, confident
body-language and voice.
She (confused) : “Uh…”
You (smiling) : “Actually… I just wanted to talk to you. I see you
all the time on your phat-phatee and you look cute from a
distance. And I wanted to see how you look up close” *pause*
“And you’re not bad!”
She : “Blah, blah…”
You (smiling) : “I am Sameer. What’s your name?”
She : “Blah, blah…”
You : “Listen, I wish I had the time to talk to you, but I have to go.
But I think…*pause*….I want to talk to you again. Let me quickly
grab your number and I’ll give you a call later. If you sound fun on
the phone, maybe we could hang out” (take out your cellphone and
wait for her to give you her number)
- Then take things forward on the phone.
And by the way, address her only as PhatPhatee, not by her real name.
Example: If you’re sending her an sms, say Hey PhatPhatee, thinking of me? 😉
I know what you’re thinking.
- What if she does not stop her scooter?
- What if she does not answer my question?
- What if she does not give me her number?
- What if she asks me to get lost?
Whether you get the girl or not is not important.
What’s important is that you TAKE ACTION.
Karm kar, phal ki chinta chhod.
If you take action, there is at least a chance that she will stop
the scooter, at least a chance that she will answer your question,
at least a chance that she will give you her number, at least a
chance that you two will get together.
But if you don’t take action, there is NO CHANCE.
You can spend all your life staring at her but nothing will happen.
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