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When most guys approach a woman (if they do approach at all)
they play it safe.
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They give her a compliment or ask what college she is in, or
ask for directions to a place, or ask which bus goes to a certain
destination, or use some such ‘safe’ conversation starters.
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Boring.
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And then they write to me wondering why the girl was not interested
in taking the conversation further or why she didn’t give him her
number. Or, even if she did give the number, why did she not
answer the phone when he called later.
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I get hundreds of such mails every week. And I find them all doing
the exact same mistake : they do not create attraction.
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Just because you walk up and talk to her, does not make her feel attraction.
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Remember, most women will not jump into bed with a random guy.
Not even if he is rich, famous and good looking. http://bit.ly/lCHcMH
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Without attraction, a woman will not feel like taking things further.
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To create attraction, your approach must have 3 important elements.
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- Be interesting
To her you’re a complete stranger. That’s why it’s important that you
immediately capture her interest with a topic that engages her emotional
mind, not her logical mind. Hint : Talking about relationships, fashion and
the unknown is good. Talking about computers and premier league football
is not. Refer to my previous posts for interesting openers, or get the
PocketPUA for a bunch of interesting ones.
———— - Display strength
In all animal species, the females are programmed by nature to be
attracted to STRONG males. And what is strength? No, it has nothing to
do with how tall or big you are. Real strength is the ability to hold tension.
And the ultimate evidence of this is your body language and voice.
Even if you are a 6 footer hunk with ripping muscles, you look like a
weakling to her if your hands are folded nervously while talking to her,
or they’re in your pocket or fidgeting anxiously, or if your voice sounds
timid and shy. On the other hand, no matter how short or thin you are
physically, if you have bold body language and voice, she sees you as
a STRONG man.
———— - Show willingness to walk away
When a guy approaches a hottie, the first thing she thinks is “Oh no, how
long is this guy going to stay?” Why? Because most guys, as soon as they get
any kind of response from a woman, STICK to her like a leech, refusing to
let go. That’s why you have to make it clear from the START, that you’re not
like the other guys. As soon as you approach, let her know that you just have
a minute and then you have to go. Even a simple, “Hey, quick question, then
I have to go”, makes her drop her defense shields. It even makes her see you
as a challenge. She begins to think, “He thinks he can walk away from a hottie
like me? I’ll make him stay”
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