Question from reader :
A pretty girl from school whom I never talked to, meets me at a school reunion after i am finished with my post graduation and I’m pursuing a handsome job with an FMCG company. We talk and have a nice time but I come to know that she is committed. 1.5 yrs later we meet again as I happen to visit her city for some official purpose. This time she has broken up from a six yr old relationship. We have dinner and a very nice time with each other and I start to get the vibe that we are clicking together. Post this I come back to my city and try to keep in touch through whatsapp hoping that slowly I will take it to the next level (calls over phone) and then to meeting frequently. But the response I have been getting over whatsapp hasn’t been very optimistic and hence I am not able to get to the next levels. Now she is shifting into my city and hence I want to help her shift in this city and then again try to get the equation right with her so that I can fulfil the ultimate fantasy every guy has..! I am definitely confident about the nice time we had over that dinner and probably didn’t do the wrong thing by taking it to the next level. Your advices & Pocket PUAs has really helped a lot of times and I hope for an effective solution now too. Personality wise, I am a very extrovert guy and I am the first to start conversations in a group or with strangers. I feel pretty confident with my sense of humor too. Pls advice as how to nail this girl.– Raj, Mumbai
***My response***
Let me guess.
You never got physical with this girl, right?
All you did was talk, talk and talk.
You were probably thinking : “Everything is going so well. I don’t want to
screw this up. I don’t want to get physical and upset her. I don’t want her
to think I am like all the ‘other guys’. I want her to think I am DIFFERENT.”
Unfortunately, that’s how most guys behave around women.
Ironically, the way to be different from the other guys is to get physical.
When she told you she has “broken up from a six yr old relationship”
it was her signal for you to take the lead and go for it. Obviously she was
attracted to you, otherwise she would not have made it so clear.
But you ignored the signal and she lost attraction.
Btw a real man does not wait for a signal to make the move, he gives himself
the signal and gets physical immediately. Of course, there is a way to get
physical without making her uncomfortable.
How to get physical without making her uncomfortable
Inexperienced guys think getting physical means going straight for the kiss.
So they’ll talk, talk, talk through the entire interaction, and when the evening
is about to end, they lunge for the kiss.
Bad idea. It makes her run!
The way to get physical is g-r-a-d-u-a-l-l-y.
Before you touch her sexually, she should get comfortable with your non-sexual touch.
Here are some ideas for non-sexual touching :
- Get physical early
Get physical early and EVERY time you meet. You could hug, kiss on the cheek, high-five over
anything, push her away, pull her, hold her by her waist and turn her body to point to something,
play games that involve touching (thumb wrestling, palm reading, etc). The advantage of touching
early is that she won’t be creeped out when you escalate sexually later.
————– - Spank her ass
Whenever you get a chance say “Bad girl!” and spank her ass, as if admonishing a little girl.
Spanking a woman’s ass does a few things : It shows dominance and playfulness, both good
for attraction. Besides, the pain-pleasure associated with the spank gives her an erotic buzz
(her ass is close to her vulva). Overall it makes her feel it’s ok to let out her bad-girl side
when she’s with you.
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- Lead her physically to a different part of the venue
When you are in a bar, club or any social place, say “come with me over there”, grab her
hand and pull her, weave her through the crowd to wherever you are bringing her. Leading a
woman physically is a powerful way to create attraction.
————– - Tease her about something physical
Look at her arm and say, “Hey wait…I just noticed your elbow looks like chicken skin”.
Then squeeze the skin of her outer elbow and make silly chicken noises. Just fun. You could
continue and say, “Did you know, the body parts that bend the most have the most nerve endings?
Parts like your elbow (touch her inner elbow), behind your knee (touch it if you can).”
Then push her away gently with “Hey, don’t get ideas now”.
————– - Compare hand sizes
Look at her palm and say, “You have small hands” Then take her palm, put it on yours as if
comparing sizes and say “Mine is bigger…and softer…and sexier”
—— - If you absolutely dread getting physical, try these ideas for starters
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- Rest your hand on her knee or thigh while excusing yourself to
go to the bathroom/answer phone/get a drink.
————– - Offer your arm to her while moving from one venue to another.
————– - When you sit together, sit so close that your arms or legs are touching.
If she appears to be uncomfortable with the physical closeness, roll your eyes
and move really far away, leaving an exaggeratedly large space between you both.
This will usually make her socially uncomfortable and she’ll want you to come closer.
- Rest your hand on her knee or thigh while excusing yourself to
Summary :
If you think getting physical with a woman is risky, remember : the only real risk is
NOT taking a risk.
What the world needs (what women are looking for) is the masculine male, who is not
apologetic about his sexual desire* for her and is willing to take things to the next level
without fear of rejection.
Women want men who will take the lead and flirt and get physical and arouse her and
ultimately, f*ck her.
Women love sex and enjoy getting f*cked by a bold, masculine guy.
* Note : All this advice is for creating attraction in a woman who is enjoying the
interaction. If a woman says No, or asks you to stop, you should stop immediately,
or you will go to jail, and you should.
So what can you do now to re-create attraction with this girl?
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