What you can learn from Vivek Oberoi’s mistakes
Remember Vivek Oberoi’s debut role as Chandu in the movie Company ?
Chandu was ambitious, dominant, focussed on his goals and didn’t give a f**k about what the world
thought of him. Precisely the qualities that make a man sexually attractive.
The character of Chandu was so rare (real men are rare!) that for years, Vivek was identified with
Chandu’s qualities of being a sexy, dominant, real man.
Sure enough, Vivek attracted a massive female following. Including a former Miss World.
You’d think he would now turn on the Chandu persona even MORE, right?
Well, he did just the opposite. He discarded Chandu!
He stopped focusing on his goals (unlike Chandu in the movie) and focused entirely on Aish.
He followed her everywhere like a puppy. He showered her with gifts. In interviews, he talked about
how “blessed” he felt because she had come into his life. He even blushed while talking about her!
My guess is, he also called her on the phone a LOT.
We know what happened next.
He was quickly dumped.
And you can’t blame her. With Chandu gone, gone was the man she was attracted to.
Mistake # 1) He stopped being Chandu.
Never stop doing the things that attracted her to you in the first place. Attraction is not
a destination that you reach and then relax. Attraction is a journey. You have to
continuously be an attractive man. Even after you get her number, even after you sleep
with her, even after you’re married to her for 50 years, keep her attracted. If you don’t,
somebody else might.
Mistake # 2) He did not date other women
After he got dumped, Vivek continued to stay single. He probably thought his “dedication” and
“loyalty” (his words, not mine) would move her emotionally and she would come running back
into his arms. But attraction doesn’t work that way. He should have started dating other hot
women IMMEDIATELY, without wasting a minute. The surest way to attract a woman is to make
her see you date other women. Even if you don’t have other women to date, at least give the
impression that you do.
Yesterday I was reading his interview in a magazine. I thought, after all these years, the man must
have realized his mistakes and is now wiser. Unfortunately, the guy is still a complete dodo.
Here are some of the quotes from the interview (Hindustan Times, HT Cafe, Sat Jan 02, 2009)
“I am still single. I’ve been single for 4 years.”
“I hope to find a girl who appreciates my dedication and loyalty”
Dude! If you keep giving interviews like these, even Bobby Darling will not want to f**k you.