Most guys think a direct approach means walking up to a girl and saying you like her.
Their typical interaction goes something like this.
Guy (walking upto girl) : “Hi, I just saw you from over there and I wanted to come and say, you are cute”
Girl : Thank you (smiling)
Guy : So what’s your name?
Girl : Blah, blah
They talk for a while. They may even exchange numbers at the end.
But the interaction goes nowhere.
Even if he gets her number it’s usually not a solid number (either it’s a fake
number, or when he calls her, she says she’s busy or has a boyfriend etc.)
So what is the mistake most guys do?
The mistake : He makes it clear that he likes everything about her.
When you let her know that you like everything about her, and there is
nothing else she needs to do to win your approval, she doesn’t see you as a challenge.
You come across as a man who is not choosy, which is a sign of low standards
or desperation. All, indicators of a low value male.
This makes her feel dominant and in control.
This is not good for attraction.
Women want the MAN to be dominant and in control.
How to establish dominance in a direct approach
After you approach her and tell her she is cute or she has a sexy walk etc.,
and talk to her for a bit, you should tease her about something you
observed about her.
You could tease her about her pronunciation, her lack of general knowledge,
her job, her hair, her shoes, about anything. It shows you are not afraid to
show her some attitude.
This is push-pull. You are doing both, pushing her away and pulling her towards you.
On the one hand you say she has a sexy walk, on the other hand,
you’re teasing her about her hair.
This gives her the feeling that she has not totally won you over, and there
are still things about her that you don’t quite like.
This makes her see you as a challenge and it sparks attraction.
It increases the chances of her giving you the phone number so that she
can meet you again.
And when you do call her, there is a higher chance that she responds positively.
Note : When you tease you have to do it playfully. Your body language, smile and
tone of voice should make it clear that you’re being playful and not mean. Here’s how
to know if you’ve got it right . If she is enjoying your teasing, you’re doing it right. 🙂
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