Hey! I’m studying B.Sc engineering. I read ur blog n i think its very interesting. I have a question for u buddy. I hope u vill reply me asap. I will write everything in detail… I was sitting at the college cafeteria where a girl with her group was sitting doing some assignments. I started looking at her. After a while she showed some interest by looking at me. I didn’t approach her that day, and the next day she passed by me walking, she was looking at me. I didn’t follow her as i thought she would think of me as a stalker. And then i saw her after a week. When i tried to approach her she moved out of the way, kind of avoiding me, then she moved to a photocopier shop. I also went there coz i needed some printout also. But I didn’t said anything to her. Even I don’t make any eye contact with her. Now I don’t know wat to do. I think i like this girl. A friend of mine also told me that the same girl was approached by another boy n she moved away with a smile on her face. The good news she is not with any boy until now. Girls are kind of shy n conservative here. Give me some real man advise man. Any decent opinion opener? Waiting for ur advice.
– Altaf, Karachi
***My short response***
When a girl gives you eye contact, it usually means she wants you to approach.
She is not saying, “Come here and fuck me.”
She is saying, “You seem high value, but I am not sure, though I am curious.
Come and talk to me, show me your personality so I can decide if you’re
really high value. And if you are, I may fuck you.”
You could walk up and say “Hi, I just saw you from there and
wanted to talk to you. My name is Altaf, what’s your name?”
Because she wants to know about you (that’s why she gave you the
eye contact), she will usually contribute to the conversation and
help you take it forward.
And if she doesn’t help take the conversation forward?
No problem, you take it forward yourself. Read this previous post.
***My long response***
You wrote : “a girl with her group was sitting doing some assignments.
I started looking at her. After a while she showed some interest by
looking at me. I didn’t approach her that day…”
Most guys won’t approach a girl sitting in a group because they think it’s
more difficult. Every hot girl knows this from experience. She never
gets approached when she is in a group, but when she gets up to go to
the bathroom, a guy appears out of nowhere! 🙂
She knows this guy was hiding somewhere, waiting for her to be alone.
That’s creepy. How could she feel attraction for a man like that.
Now imagine a different scenario.
Imagine a guy approaching her while she is with her group of friends.
She feels, hey, this has never happened to me before! THIS MAN IS DIFFERENT!
Her attraction shoots up faster than when she gets approached alone.
Will she leave her group to join the guy? Probably not. She may not even
give her number in front of her friends (not in a conservative culture like
Pakistan or like in small towns of India).
But that’s ok. Don’t even ask for her number.
Just talk to the group and leave.
You want nothing from them. You’re just being a social, confident guy who
likes talking to people.
But you’ve made a huge impact. The next time you see this girl alone,
she will give you much stronger eye contact. And when you approach her,
she will be much more willing to take the conversation forward and
give you her phone number.
Here’s a sweet bonus : The other girls in the group will also have noticed
your balls, and you can expect eye-contact from most of them later. 😉
Quick tip about approaching groups : When you approach a group,
talk to everybody, not just to this girl. In fact, talk to the others more
than you talk to this girl. Her feeling a little ignored is good for attraction.
You wrote : “When i tried to approach her she moved out of
the way, kind of avoiding me, then she moved to a photocopier
shop. I also went there coz i needed some printout also. But I
didn’t said anything to her…”
My guess is, she moved to the photocopier shop because she was
more comfortable being approached there.
When a girl wants to be approached, she will sometimes move to a
location where she has more privacy. Maybe the previous place had
had more people.
But thinking too much is dangerous. If a girl gives a guy a lot of
eye contact and the guy still does not approach, she usually loses
attraction for him. In fact, she also loses respect for him. Just as we
lose respect for a coward.
You wrote : “A friend of mine also told me that the same girl
was approached by another boy n she moved away with a
smile on her face. The good news she is not with any boy
until now. Girls are kind of shy n conservative here.”
Don’t take it too easy. She could be single in the morning but she
could get hitched in the evening.
Anything can happen any time.
The reason she is not with any man is not because of a lack of men,
but a lack of real men.
You think she is “shy and conservative”? Ha, ha, ha! 🙂
Don’t be surprised to learn that she got f**ked by the local mawaali. 😉
Happens all the time.
The ‘decent’ guy approaches like a sissy because he is concerned
about his izzat. The mawaali approaches bindaas because he has
no izzat, he doesn’t care, he has nothing to lose.
Women find the ‘I don’t give a damn’ approach very attractive.
Don’t be surprised if you see her coming out of a movie theater with
a mawaali type guy. Then all you can do is whip your willy thinking
of her, night and day. 😉
Fact : Many affluent families have been forced to accept a mawaali
son-in-law because their daughter refuses to leave him.
Remember: Every woman has both, a good girl and bad girl inside her.
She will bring out the good girl or the bad girl, depending on the way
the man is interacting with her. Most guys only get to see her “good girl”
side, but when she meets a real man, she allows the “bad girl” to come out.
So should you behave like a mawaali? Not exactly. But what you should
do is project that I-don’t-give-a-fuck-what-people-think-of-me attitude
that mawaalis have.
So what should you do now?
Approach, damn it!
Walk up and say, “Hey, quick question. My friend and I are having
a debate, quick question, and then I have to go.
Veena Mallik. Is she a good or bad influence on Pakistani girls?”
She : “Blah, blah”
You : “The reason I am asking is, my friend’s little sister, she’s a
huge fan of Veena Mallik and her dream is to become an item dancer
in Bollywood.”
She : “Blah, blah”
You : “My friend is furious. He thinks Veena is a bad influence on
Pakistani girls. But I think it’s ok, dancing in the movies can be a
cool career. What do you think?”
She : “Blah, blah”
You : “By the way, are you two….good friends?”
She : “Blah, blah”
You : “Like…really close friends?”
She : “Blah, blah”
You : “It’s so obvious…both of you make…the same…weird expressions”
Girls : “Laugh, blah, blah”
And you’re in conversation.
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