Hey, I m a good looking guy planning to be a model. My main problem is I have too much ego problem. According to me girls should approach me first because I m so good looking. At the same time I am nervous to approach girls. Every girl I talk to puts me in the friend zone . They say “I love u as a friend”. I feel like banging my head on a wall..I m literally pissed off and frustrated.
– P.K., Saharanpur
Understand this important difference between men and women.
Men are attracted to looks. Women are attracted to confidence.
When a man sees beautiful breasts, he is attracted and ready to
have sex with the owner of the breasts. But when a woman sees
a man with a great body, she is NOT attracted, just intrigued.
Only after she hears him talk and sees him move with confidence,
can she decide if she is attracted.
Why is that?
Why do women give more importance to confidence than good looks?
I’ll explain. Listen carefully.
For thousands of years we lived in the jungle. Our deepest instincts
are still shaped by our life in the jungle. When a woman gets pregnant in
the jungle, she needs her man to go out, hunt and bring food for her
and her baby. She needs a man who will protect her from enemy tribes and
wild animals. She needs a man who has the strength to build a house for
her protection. In short, she needs a confident and strong man.
In the jungle, a good looking man who is unable to hunt for food is useless.
His woman and baby will starve to death. Even if he has six-pack abs, but
no courage to fight enemies and wild animals, she and her baby could
get killed. Even if he looks cute but is unable to build a house for her and her
baby, they could get killed by exposure to sun and rain.
That’s why women feel no attraction for handsome hunks who will stare
from a distance but have no courage to approach.
That’s why women are attracted to men who may be short, fat and ugly
but have the courage to approach and talk to them.
Because in the jungle, courage in a partner is more useful for her survival
than good looks.
The girls you talk to see you as a friend and not as a lover. But you have not
mentioned what do you talk to them about, what are the things you say?
Remember, when you send me a question, provide as much information as
possible. My guess is you’re relying on your good looks to create attraction.
That doesn’t work with women. A man has to actively flip a woman’s attraction
switches to make her see him as a lover.
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