After getting a woman’s number, most guys will call
the next day and try to take things further.
He’ll try to fix up a date for coffee or dinner, or he’ll invite her
to an event, or for a long drive. In some way or the other he’ll try
to escalate things so that he gets to meet her soon.
Don’t do that. Don’t be in a hurry to hang out with her.
It communicates all the wrong things about you. It says…
- That you have no women in your life
If you already have gorgeous, high-quality, fun girls in your life,
why would you actively make plans to hang out with a random girl
you just met?
- That you’re not choosy
Why would you be so eager to hang out with a girl you barely know?
Why are you not selective about who you spend time with? Is it because
you have no options?
- That you have too much time on your hands
If you are already leading a fun and exciting life, why would you put aside your
valuable time and energy for a girl who has not yet proven to be fun and exciting?
- That you’re just average
By calling her and trying to set up a meeting immediately, you’re doing exactly
what the last 12 guys before you did. You’re just like the rest. You’re average.
So… what should you do when you first call her?
- Make her laugh without wanting anything from her.
- Demonstrate high value.
- Let her know about some fun activity you’re going to do
and DON’T invite her.
- Say “I’ve to go, talk to you later” and *click* disconnect.
Here’s what I usually do on my first call.
Me : Heyyyyy, do you have a twin sister?
She : Uh..what?
Me : I was on my way back from the gym and I saw this
girl who looked exactly like you! Do you have a twin?
She : No, blah, blah…
Me : *phew* Thank goodness. I can barely handle one
of you, no way I can handle two!
She : laughs, blah, blah…
Me : So do you work out?
She : Yes, no, blah…
Me : (if she says yes) Wow, you have a tight ass?
(if she says no) So you have a paunch?! Oh no!
She : Blah, blah…
Me : You know what, I’d let you take me out for coffee,
but I’m not sure you’re smart enough to hang out with me.
She : Blah, blah…
Me : Ok, fine let me test your intelligence to see if you’re
really smart or just a buddhoo.
Then give her the buddhoo test. She’ll usually fail.*
Me : OMG, you failed the buddhoo test?! I don’t think this
relationship is going to work out. You know, I am going for this
show at the Comedy Store on Saturday, I thought I’d take you along…
but now…NO WAY!
She : Laughs, blah…
Me : Hey, I have to take another call, I will call you back.
Then, I don’t call her back.
Be the guy who is different from the rest.
Don’t be average.
Average men don’t get laid.
At least not by quality women.
* If she passes the buddhoo test (which rarely happens), just say
“Respect! You know, you seemed like a buddhoo when I first met
you, but NOW I’m kinda curious about you”