The art of pushing a girl away
If you chase girls, they run away. If you push them away, they chase you.
Some guys don’t know this. They give her too many compliments, call her
too often… and she runs away.
Some guys know this, and they don’t chase girls. In fact, they go to the other extreme
and ignore girls; they won’t even talk to them. These are the guys you see at parties,
standing aloof and sipping their drinks calmly. They pretend to ignore the girls hoping
that it will attract them. But it doesn’t work. The cool, aloof James Bond types do NOT
get laid. Girls usually don’t even notice these guys. And even if they do, most women
won’t approach a man, no matter how attracted they are.
So how do you show that you’re not interested in a woman in a way that causes attraction?
You do it with ACTIVE disinterest. Don’t just ignore the girls, but approach them, talk to
them and THEN show that you’re not interested.
Here’s an example, that happened recently.
Me (walking up to hot babe, smiling) : “Hey, I saw you from over there, and I noticed your
tight butt. A tight butt is so rare these days. You must be into serious fitness!”
She : (laughing) Well, yes, I like to be fit…blah, blah
Me : (sounding excited) So you have a flat tummy? No paunch at all? Like Shilpa Shetty?
She : How I wish! But I do have a slight paunch.
Me : (I stop smiling, and sound a bit disappointed) Oh…you have a paunch? Well…a slight
paunch is fine…I guess. But hey, since we are talking, let me ask you. I was just giving my friend
over there some female advice. And I wanted your take on this…
I then launched into the creepy-ex opener.
By letting her actively know that her paunch has caused me to lose attraction, she started
seeing me as a challenge. Suddenly I was different from the rest of the guys who had walked
up and told her how beautiful she was. She now wanted to earn my attraction. She listened
to me with more interest, she responded more eagerly to my questions, she was eager to tell
me about her accomplishments. And finally when I had to leave, she was glad I asked for her
number. And when I called her a couple of days later, she was glad I called.
Active disinterest is powerful. Use it.
We discuss this in detail in our eCoaching program. In addition to readymade scripts for
active disinterest, clients get to chat with Shiva live, discuss real life situations from their lives
and get instant suggestions and techniques from him to improve their game.
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