Reader’s question : “She won’t talk, I do all the talking!”

 

 

Question from reader :

I had a girlfriend for about 2 yrs…long distance relationship…never met for like 9 months. We fight occasionally as she is busy all day long, never has time for me. Even during evening time she never talked, I did all the talking, she just listened to me. This ended up in a big fight. She said “Let’s be friends, don’t spoil our relationship, when we will be in a same town we will continue”. She talks to me now, but for like after a week’s gap so that we don’t end up fighting again…can you suggest that should I talk to her?? She’s coming over next week. Should i be normal or should I show my interest in her? Help please.

– Sanjeev, Jhansi

 

***My response***

Simple question for you.

Why should she talk to you?

She can talk to ANY guy she wants. One eye contact from a girl and
most guys will be ready to talk.

So why should she talk to you? Why YOU?

 

No woman in the world owes you a conversation.
Not your girlfriend, not your wife, not even your mother.

You cannot demand a conversation from her.

You have to inspire her to talk.

You have to create conditions that make her want to talk to you.

 

You say that you fight with her because she’s too busy to talk to you.

That sounds like a whiny little boy whose mom has refused to give him
extra candy, so he falls on the ground crying,
“Mommaaaaa, candy, candy, I want candy, waaaaaaaah”

 

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Women don’t want to f**k whiny little boys.

 

Women want to f**k real men.

 

A real man does not wait for a girl to get free to talk to him.

Oh no! He is too busy with his projects, his dreams, his adventures.

He barely has time for women.

In fact, it’s the women in his life who complain that he doesn’t
give them enough time.

 

Frankly, I think this girl has lost all attraction for you but she’s
too polite to say it.

And the more you chase her, the more she wants to run away.

The best thing you can do right now is to STOP chasing her and focus
on improving yourself.

Here are some tips for you to increase your value in her eyes,
and maybe, just maybe, she’ll get attracted again.

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  1. Leave town
    I don’t usually advise this extreme step, but yours is an extreme case.
    Get a job in another town. Why another town? Because, right now you
    are too predictable to her. When she comes to town, she KNOWS you
    are  there, waiting for her. Like the dogs, cats, cows and neighbours  in
    your mohalla, she knows you will also be there, waiting. That’s NOT
    attractive. Predictability kills attraction. Next time she comes to town,
    she should wonder…where is Sanjeev? Gone to another town? Why?
    Why didn’t he tell me? What is he doing there? Has he found another girl?
    Has he lost interest in me? When a woman wonders about you, it’s good
    for attraction. Never let a woman take you for granted.
    Always be unpredictable.
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  2. Get busy
    You sound like you have a little too much free time. Do something with that time.
    If you don’t have a job, get one. If you’re employed, join a course that teaches
    you a skill that improves your market value. Or join a class that teaches you a
    fun skill like music or dance. Or join a gym and get into shape. Or travel to a new
    place. Not only do these activities give you conversation topics to keep her
    interested, it also keeps you busy. Your time becomes more precious, and she’ll
    value the time you spend with her. A busy man is an attractive man.
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  3. Dress more fashionably
    I don’t know what you dress like, but my gut feel says that you dress boring.
    Pick from the fashion ideas here and improve the way you look.

 

So, should you talk to her when she comes over next week?

No.

Should you even meet her?

No.

Should you even be in town?

No.

You should be far away somewhere, anywhere, doing something, anything!

 

Women are attracted to men who are out there, busy following a dream.

Do you have a dream? Do you have a maksad (purpose) in life?

If you don’t have one, get one.

It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it is something you passionately believe in.

Get so busy with that maksad, that the girl should complain that you are not
giving her enough time, she should complain that you don’t talk but only listen.

She should be the one complaining, not you.

Once in a while, meet her, pin her down, eat her from head to toe, give her
mind blowing orgasms, f**k her hard and then….GET BACK to being busy
with your maksad, your purpose, your dreams.

That’s the way of the real man.
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